Grief has always been lonely. Suffering has always been lonely; it’s lonelier than ever in the era of isolation. But anyone who has ever been in crisis can tell you that there is a big difference between being there andbeing there.
The grief of death is obvious. We can recognize that one when we see it or experience it. It’s harder for all of us to recognize grief in its other forms — when the subject of our sorrow isn’t the death of a person but the loss of something else.
If there’s another phrase that’s buzzier (and emptier) than self-care, we don’t want to know what it is. Is self-care eating salad? Watching Netflix? Pressing ignore on a call you don’t want to take? Yes,and, it’s really about being in tune with where you are and what you need.
The more you talk about being widowed, the more people in your life push you toward other widows. And throughout the Twin Cities, people pushed their widowed friends, families and co-workers toward us.
When we found out our founder Nora McInerny's TED talk on grief was the #4 TED Talk of 2019, we were super proud but not at all surprised. Because grief is the universal experience that still puzzles all of us.